Monday, January 25, 2010

Are You Enjoying the Journey?

I received this quote recently:

People say, "The joy is in the journey," but they rarely understand what they are saying. You are in this focused time/space reality with goals and objectives that call you because as you identify a desire it literally summons life through you. Life summoning through you is what it's all about --it's not the completion of anything.

From Abraham of Abraham-Hicks

Excerpted from the workshop in Chicago, IL on Sunday, November 1st, 1998 #323

As always with Abraham in my life, the quote was timely as I have been struggling with some choices that are really hard and unpleasant for right now but are supposed to bring high yield results in the future. I have been very uneasy in my heart with such choices without really being able to justify to those around me why I would want to walk away from such good logical, rational decisions. And I speak as a responsible single Mom of three who had to plan and prioritize and make very practical "miracles" happen for years. I am not coming from a totally airy-fairy lalaland sort of perspective.

Here is why the logical, rational, painful choices have bothered me: because each day of the journey is really a brick that we build our lives with. So if the journey is bitter and arduous and we build the foundations of our lives on something bitter, difficult and painful, how are we going to enjoy the end result? How are we going to enjoy being in a place built on a vibration of pain? It will be too late by then and the sweetness will be gone.

Of course the other way is to accept, to forgive, to learn and change until what we are going through becomes a breeze instead of being arduous. Then we are always in a vibration of love and we build our foundation on love and cooperation.

The journey IS all there is, as we never really 'get there', not even when we leave our body and move into eternity. So enjoying the journey as opposed to betting everything on some 'destination' really becomes paramount.

Are YOU enjoying the journey? And if not, what can YOU do to change that?

Sunday, January 24, 2010

Learning What We Need to Know

"Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know." - Pema Chodron

And if you abort the learning in its original form because
  • it was too painful
  • or you felt you did not have the time
  • or the people you were learning with did not want to learn with you anymore,
I can guarantee you that the lesson will come back in another guise, with other people, other jobs, different organizations, maybe even in different places you may live in.

Until you have learned what it is that you needed to learn. Then the people who were playing that game with you will
  • either change
  • or their role will change in your life
  • or they somehow drop out of your life, sometimes quite fast

You know what you are learning right now, because the people who are the most difficult to handle or be with in your life right now are the ones you are learning it with. You are being mirrors and teachers for each other. What is the true core of your issue with them? What buttons are they pushing?

What do YOU need to learn that keeps coming back in your life?

Allowing Yourself to Receive

A very good friend offered some help yesterday. "No thank you, there is no need, I got this" was the answer from this very capable experienced single Mom whose secret mission is to save the whole entire world on her own. It's been my mission for as long as I can remember. Read: infancy. Now you know there's an issue right there at the crux of that response!

This morning I woke up realizing I had most probably hurt his feelings and that his intentions were good. No need to create ill will. So it got me thinking: why do I do it? Why do I push people away when they want to help me?

Let's peel the layer of this onion.

It used to be because I felt unworthy of their help. Undeserving. Last spring I worked on self image and therefore self-esteem issues so I thought I was good to go when we solved that.


It came up that I hated the sound of my own voice. Healed that with a wonderful music teacher who is also a great healer. I am ok with my voice now. We're friends.

Then I met @38harmony who taught me how to breathe and correct my posture for enhanced health and energy. All sorts of feelings came up then. "Keep breathing" he says calmly with a knowing smile. So I keep breathing and letting go.

I realized this morning that I push people away because I "don't want to be a burden to them". OK, where did THAT come from? Long boring story about my birth creating heavy responsibility on young parents, no money and the resulting shame creating social isolation. As an infant I absorbed my parents' emotions and believed them to be my own. It took me over 40 years to get to that? aaarrrrgghhhhh! There's more to it but all in the same vein and I think I've made my point. You can fill in the blank with your personal life details if this story resonates with you.

Good news is I called, apologized, said I'd love to accept the help and to learn differently and better. Getting there...

Do YOU allow yourself to receive from others?

Friday, January 22, 2010

Truth and Love

State your truth lovingly and watch miracles unfold.

State your love truthfully and watch miracles unfold.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Why Do You Do What You Do?

Why do you do what you do? And when was the last time you stopped to ask yourself that?

Of course, I mean: What is the overall plan? Where are you going with this?

But I also mean: If you die tomorrow, will you be satisfied with the everyday process to date as well as with the end result you are seeking? Are you enjoying the ride? Why do you do what you do in the way you are doing it?

Why do you do what you do? I don't have an answer for you. I can only share with you the question I ask myself daily and say honestly that the reason I do what I do everyday, with family, friends and clients, is because I am interested in the potential for love, growth and spiritual awareness.

So, why do YOU do what YOU do?

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Who Owns Your Time?

Who owns your time?

Do you own your time? And therefore do you own yourself?

Does your tribe own you? Do you do what your peers (friends, colleagues, family or neighbors) expect? Can you bear the thought of doing anything that would lead them to decide that they feel betrayed? Do you vacation where they expect you to? Do you eat food that makes you sick because they give it to you?

Does your career own you? Do you do things for your career advancement that are detrimental to your health, your family, your children's development, your self-respect?

Do your parents still own you? Are you still abiding by your childhood standards even when you know they hurt you or undermine your chosen lifestyle?

Do you respond to the fear that lives in your reptilian brain? Does your desire to avoid fear drive what you do and don't do and so own much of your time?

Do your children own you? Do you do what they want or expect even when they don't need you to?

Does the bank own your time and therefore you because you are so far in debt?

Does money own you because you chose it over creativity, time, health, rest, respect?

Do old unconscious patterns from early life own you and create painful situations that keep repeating themselves?

At some point of my life I have answered yes to all of the above. As I mature the trick seems to be able to know which mode I am in at any given moment. And to try to own myself and my time by making decisions that are loving for myself so that I have extra love to give and share. Overflowing, abundant, joyful love.

Anything that comes between you and love, between you and creativity, between you and the life you really desire owns you and your time. Anything that enhances and fosters your creative and loving desires, you own and you create joy when you give it time.

So, who owns YOUR time? And are you happy with the situation?

Monday, January 18, 2010

Love is Easy

It occurred to me today that

Love is easy

Love is flow

Love is life

Love is light

Love is Light

Love is not easy as in 'cheap and easy', nasty. Love is easy as in 'just happens'. As in 'just flows'.

As soon as what you think of as love becomes complicated, as soon as you need to justify it, you are not 'in love' anymore. You are 'in wound', 'in fear' or 'in pain'.

Love just is, just happens, just flows. Anything else might be interesting, but it's not love.

Love is easy: it's the flow of Divine Light made into life. Love is life. Love just is. And just being is easy, it flows.

Are YOU in love or in pain?